A Secret to Success

"Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and
your thoughts shall be established."

Proverbs 16:3

Thanks to Ron Hupa for the verse.

Controlling the emotions

Reading one of the bulletin entry in my Friendster, my interest was caught for a while on the subject it spoke of - "Controlling the emotions". The write-up drew from me mixed reactions and I want to share them with you.

Here is the first paragraph:

This would give you guides on how to
control your emotions towards your
better-half, friends, officemates and
all the people around you, especially
your "boss " . The rules of
practicing " ugaling langit, ugaling
kaaya-aya " :

Stephen: Hmmm... sounds heavenly. But in fact it really is. The intent is good right from the opening tip. Let us continue...

#1 Ang naunang magalit ang may
karapatang magalit. Pag naunahan ka na
ng galit niya, tumahimik ka na lang
muna.

Stephen: Under this statement lies a good point which can be stated in other form: a fire can't be put off with a fire... better not to dislodge your own rage.

#2 Walang taong nag-aaway mag-isa. Pag
hindi kayo sumagot o pumatol, titigil
din daw ang taong nakikipag- away sa
inyo.

Stephen: Have you tried fighting yourself alone - poking your self, throwing a stone on your head or biting your lips? Well, I could say, you can relate with this statement. There is no fight unless there are two persons involve, I should say.

# 3 Ang taong galit, 'bingi.' If
someone is angry, wala raw
pinakikinggan , so, don't try to
explain and fight back. Hindi ka niya
iintindihin dahil wala siyang
naririnig kundi ang sarili nya.

Stephen: Well said! I can't recall hearing other people's opinions when I'm angry.

#4 Ang taong galit, 'abnoy.' Ayon sa
pastor, Biblical daw ito? because the
Lord said when He was
crucified, "Father, patawarin mo sila
dahil hindi nila alam ang kanilang
ginagawa ." Modern term for these kinds
of people are abnoys, so you better
not get angry para huwag kang matawag
na abnoy.

Stephen: Who said this? Maybe I should start finding a better term for 'abnoy, or even an appropriate Bible passage. Anyway, these lines can do - though slightly.

You should also know and realize that
the persons who make your day bad are
jewels, because you need them for you
to mature. Hangga't andyan daw sila at
kinaiinisan mo, ibig sabihin, immature
ka pa. God will not take away those
people; it's for you to take away your
bad feelings towards them. You'll know
na mature ka na pag dumating 'yung
time na hindi ka na naiinis sa mga
taong ito because you have learned to
accept them and to have patience with
them.

Stephen: This one I like. The power of positivity. You can't take really something away from others as easily as you can take from yourself. You can't push them to change for you that easy but a positive change in you would bring them to their senses somehow. Maturity settles to the individuals who has the minds that understand and hearts that listens, but not to hard-headed, hateful persons.

#5 Finally, the best part of this is
to tell yourself na, because of this
person, "I will grow mature," and that
DAHIL SA CONTRIBUTION NIYA SA MATURITY
MO, KUKUNIN DIN SYA NI LORD.

Stephen: Nice punch on the throat! (Only to those causing the trouble) The statement is as clear as glass and reminds us of karma. No explaination needed, only prayers.

God bless!